Ever had one of those ‘on again, off again’ relationships?
You get together. You break up.
You get together. You break up… again
Maybe history is bound to repeat itself.
Over and over again…
Maybe instead of resisting, I should accept that he belongs in my life.
I met Jake almost three years ago.
We became quick 'Frenemies', friends and enemies at the same time.
We had been forced together. It was one of those blind date things. The powers that be felt that a good match we would make.
We were not.
It started out bad from the get go! What made it worse, was that unfortunately I saw him all the time. He was at the same gym as I and I couldn’t help but run into him almost daily. MY place of solitude, and he was in it.
We eventually had to start working together on a regular basis and I was not happy about that!
Silent and strong...Somehow, he could always pull out the best parts of me and make me better, even though I disliked every second of our time together.
Eventually I would grow to have him in my life... We were getting along really well. THEN, just when I felt like I was comfortable in our relationship, he was gone…
When I did see him, he was distant. At the gym, I would see him periodically, but no interaction. I would smile and wave to be polite but that was it. He eventually faded from my memory.
“Hello.” he said.
That was a couple of weeks ago. I hadn't seen him in so long and OUT OF THE BLUE, there he is.
After almost a year, he re appears and says "Hello."
He had missed me and wants to spend some time together.
Well, I had to pull up the big girl panties and face him straight on!
I was MAD!
I told him what I truly thought of him! He just stood there motionless like my words didn't matter!
I tried to ignore him and put him off but he would just wait in the background till everyone was almost gone and then call me out. I tried to ignore him but he kept showing up. He started to be there on a regular basis. I hated how he had a way of getting under my skin.
I had my reservations about spending any time with him, but starting over in a relationship with someone you know well, does have its advantages. That uncomfortable ‘getting to know you’ time period isn’t there. You can sometimes jump in and pick up where you left off.
Not with Jake.
We started at the beginning again. I had to revisit all the uncomfortable awkward moments. No easy going! Ever competing against each other, always trying to one up the other with our accomplishments...
I did tell him I would beat him again just like in the past...
When that happens, I am sure he will move on just like before.
If you see him, tell him he has nothing on me. Jacob's Ladder - if you haven't met him, you should. He will grow on you.
I love him and hate him at the same time.